EVERYTHING I JUDGE I WALK THOUGH.
The way JB treated me perfectly mirrors the way I have treated others. This is life’s great symmetry!
My indignation has blinded me to my part in all of this. You know, I am perfectly sure that there are men and women out there who are delighted that I have, at last, been taught a lesson in love.
To you all, to past loves, to those who tried..today I want to make my amends.
To AH who I cheated on. To JBC who I used. To CS the NYC photographer who I took advantage of. TK in Amsterdam I have tried to find you to make my amends. These people tried so hard to do good for me, reached out selflessly as I did for JB. And, just as I was fucked over by JB, I fucked them over each and every one. Without care or consideration.
Four people who I can remember right now who could and should be outraged by my behaviour.
In each instance I paid the price that needed paying either with my heart or my wallet. That they still haunt me is testament to my guilt…to something unresolved.
I will add more as and when I can remember them. If there are any?
To be treated as I have treated others is of course all part of GOD’S BIG PLAN.
There is no excuse for bad behaviour. Not when you are a grown up.
You may be wondering why JP is not on this list, well..we pretty equally destroyed each other and I long ago owned my part in that sordid affair.
There are many apologies that I need to make in many different ways. Eventually I will get around to all of you..eventually. Remembering, forcing myself to remember the way I have treated others has softened my heart even more toward JB. We all make mistakes, we can all use and abuse. We can all take advantage.
If I am going one day to die at peace, a smile on my face then I must make these amends. It is essential.
This was the very last piece of the jigsaw puzzle that needed finding and with great relief it is now in place. The picture is complete. My part, my mistakes owned up to.
Of course I still want JB to pay me as I have paid others what was owed. It is the right thing to do and he must learn the right thing as I have been taught by taking the wrong turn over and over.
Yesterday I went to therapy. I talked about my anger. After I did I felt so much better. JA and I had lunch at SHLA. After lunch I came home and messed about with the spa. Sarah and Paul came for dinner and we watched Nina Hagen sing My Own Personal Jesus that Paul produced. Remember this summer when she was here? Her daughter is so beautiful..as is her mother.
The sun is shining and I am in a great mood.
Rambla Pacifico, the direct road to the sea has hit a snag and I have no idea if it will ever be finished. The work continues but there is an easement problem that needs fixing. Oh dear.
JB, can we just end this absurd fight? Can you just send what is owed and leave me alone? Please? I have this picture of you. Wearing my hat…now lost. It is how I want to remember you. My friend and lover. Like a mouse set free in the garden. You HAVE to do the right thing or this will never go away. I am desperate to remember you fondly and though I can never, ever see you again I want for us to be at peace. Is this possible?