How do I feel about being excluded from Oprah’s Sex Rehab special? You may well ask dear blog readers. I feel PISSED OFF! The producer’s excuse? They didn’t want to confuse the issue of sex addiction with a gay story. FUCK YOU OPRAH! Confuse the story? That’s a strange excuse because shame based societies like the African American community and Gay Communities have the highest incidence of sex addiction/sexual compulsion. There are plenty similarities between her and me. Pity she wasn’t prepared to have a sex addict on her show who actually works a solid 12-step programme. There you go I broke my SAA anonymity.
Whilst we are at it-what the hell is Drew doing on these shows pretending he knows jack about sex addiction? The woman who did all the work on the show was sex therapist Jill Vermiere! Drew speaks in the broadest terms about addiction but really-he knows nothing about sex addiction.
Drew’s specialty is substance abuse, but his real speciality is damage control-turning up at hotel rooms and coaxing heroin addicts into rehab. Coaxing crack addicts off of roofs etc. Most days in sex rehab I worked with Jill. If I could even bear looking at Drew he was mostly baffled by what was going on-by the depth of emotion, by our commitment to do the work. It was because of Jill that we did the work. She too has been silenced in all of this high octane press shenanigan-the two real recovering sex addicts have had their voices stolen firstly by Drew then by Oprah.
Mostly, though, I am seething about the media’s approach to anything gay. Our stories are never integrated hence we are never integrated. It would not surprise me if it were a big old gay boy who made decision not to have me on the show-after all us gays do the most damage to each other.
Did Oprah and her people forget that the gays have been her very loyal fans? But let’s face it we were Obama’s biggest fans and look how far that has got us. Frankly, Oprah, what HAVE you done for the gay community recently? Did you forget about us or are we just not powerful enough? The gay community supported the election of President Obama. The black community did not return the favor by supporting us in the Prop 8 battle. Why?
Don’t worry, I am not on Tyra either. Same reason. Poor excuse eh?